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Blue
Your favorite color was blue they say
Like the sky not seen since that last day
And now clouds contain the world’s large mass
I wait for the wind to persuade them to pass
Your favorite color was blue they say
Like the seas that swelled as you passed away
And now you know you’re all that I need
I’m waiting for the waters to recede Your favorite color was blue they say
Like the tears that I cry in the bed where I lay
And now weeping’s become all I can do
I cry blue tears over the loss of you
-----For my brother, Laura Whitney

Kevin was and continues to be a gift to all that cared for him. Words can’t describe the passion he had for life, sports, friends or just simply a high school crush. He always put one hundred and ten percent into everything and motivated us all to do the same. His smile touched all of our lives and will remain a constant reminder of what an amazing person we are so lucky to call a friend.
Love from the girls that cherish him and will love him forever.
-----Juliana Ferretti, Lauren Duensing, Jennifer Shada, Jennea Ramatici, Ashley Cohen, Camille Smith, Emily Cohen, Alison Talbot-Jones, Laura Porter, Andrea Pruett, Andrea Tennyson, Amber Voisin, Amelia Pepper, Lia Guest

I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dryrot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The proper function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time.
-----Jack London
I like to think of Kevin as that superb meteor, who glowed so magnificently for so brief a time.
-----Roger Purdy (Kevin’s Uncle)
Kevin will forever live in the hearts of the ones who love him. He is our guardian angel! I'm so grateful and honored to have had him as a brother and a friend.
-----Courtney Boles (Kevin's step- sister)
Kevin was an honored member of our family and we will remember him and miss him always.
-----Lois Standring
The thing I always noticed about Kevin was that he always had a positive attitude towards life and always had a nice word for whoever was around him.
-----David Standring
Kevin is at peace and Bampy is now taking care of him.
-----Rani Maloney (Kevin’s cousin is referring to their Grandfather, Roger Purdy, who died in 1994. "Bampy" used to baby-sit Kevin and take him fishing.)
Kevin was a great person, a superb athlete, and an ideal leader. He inspired many people and I am proud to have been in his presence.
-----Brian Edwards
When I think of Kevin, 3 words come to mind: courageous, hilarious, and genuine. He was courageous. I remember him as always being the fearless one, the first one to take chances, try new things, and explore new boundaries. As a child, I remember being led on many an exciting adventure through simple downtown Petaluma...always led by Kevin. He was hilarious. I remember Kevin as always singing, and singing LOUD!! He especially enjoyed charming us with his deep, baritone "operas" to convey his current thoughts about anything from the weather to his shoelaces. He also enjoyed entertaining us with the latest boy band pop song, only adding his own personal lyrics to the song! I will also never forget his elementary school haircut (hehehe)!!! He was genuine. Kevin always took time out to spend among friends. When he was with us, he made it a point to ask everyone how we were doing and about the latest goings-on in our lives. The thing that made Kevin different is that he actually cared, and it showed. So here's to our hero, our wildfire, our friend. I love you and will keep you in my heart forever! May you rest peacefully, forever!
-----Jennea Ramatici
(These words were read at Kevin's Memorial Service)
For Kevin, some words from William Faulkner's Nobel Prize acceptance speech.

"It is easy enough to say that man is immortal because he will endure: that when the last ding-dong of doom has clanged and faded from the last worthless rock hanging tideless in the last red and dying evening, that even then there will still be one more sound: that of his puny inexhaustible voice, still talking. I refuse to accept this. I believe that man will not merely endure: he will prevail. He is immortal, not because he alone among creatures has an inexhaustible voice, but because he has a soul, a spirit capable of compassion and sacrifice and endurance."

Compassion, Sacrifice, Endurance - those are the characteristics of Kevin's spirit that led him to follow his father's footsteps into the Oxnard Regional Fire Academy and drove him to graduate as one of the top cadets. These were not merely words to Kevin, but a demonstrated pathway he had chosen to guide his life and this, he will be remembered for.

My memories of Kevin are happy ones of spending time as a family together, sitting at Christmas Eve dinner and joking that he looks just like Matt Damon who was People's Sexiest Man Alive. My Dad telling my brother that Kevin wasn't the Kevin toy. Our Family camping trips to Tahoe and OR.

Kevin truly is immortal, as his soul and spirit lives on through us and through God. We have heard the last words pass through his lips on this earth, yet in our hearts and minds his voice will truly be inexhaustible.

Kevin, I love you and will take this opportunity not to mourn your passing, but to raise up your spirit, to celebrate your life, and to thank you for the brief time you shared with us.

Love you Cousin, Jenn Whitney
It is hard for me to describe how much of an impact Kevin has had on my life. For many years growing up we could not be separated. I remember how in elementary school his parents would drive Kevin past Grant to my house so we could play freeze tag on the way to school. After class, we would always walk home together and play until dinner time. He was a part of my family. I think that when you care so much about somebody, they become a part of you. Kevin's genuine and caring nature inspired within me a sense of belonging and comradery that I believe all humans desire. He was such a loyal and dedicated friend. When I left every summer, we were pen pals. He even visited me during three different summers because two months was simply too long for us to be apart. Even though we eventually left Petaluma to go our separate ways for school, the bonds that we shared remained strong. He was always so emotionally available, loving and supportive for me and the rest of his loved ones. I just want to say that everything I have learned from him means the world to me. I will never forget his amazing spirit because he will always be with me, guiding me through the rest of my days. Thank you Kevin Whitney. You will always be my best friend.
----- From Brian Maestretti, this was his eulogy at Kevin's funeral ceremony.

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